tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1147312878657678801.post3568002897532194903..comments2023-11-05T06:33:38.414-05:00Comments on in omnia paratus: Advocates for the Preservation of the Newly Marriedkelleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03977519857849750493noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1147312878657678801.post-78515836546748500982010-08-10T11:45:49.329-04:002010-08-10T11:45:49.329-04:00Last year we added a daughter to our family, which...Last year we added a daughter to our family, which alters our public image. Before she came, newly acquainted people would ask us if we were newlyweds. Our personal trainer at the gym. A check out person at the store. We would get asked if we were newlyweds kind of often. And I loved it. <br /><br />We just celebrated 9 years of marriage. Frankly, the first years of our marriage were harder and it's just been getting easier as we've gotten into the our own rhythm - a big part of which is the respect you talk about. I believe you need to be an active participant in love and marriage. It doesn't just happen - you make it happen! <br /><br />Anyway, I remember hearing so many Debbie Downers, too. Kind of sad that they feel that way, I guess. And also, I HATE sitcoms that use the formula of nagging wife + inept husband + disrespectful interactions = comedy. <br /><br />And on a side note - I am sick of more experienced parents telling me how much I'm going to hate my child in a year or two. How my desire to spend every second I can with her will quickly go away and I'll be dying to pawn her off to any halfway competent babysitter who will take her. <br /><br />I just have to enjoy the fact that I've somehow found this elusive happiness that no (or very few) others have found. And then I pity them a bit.Lara Zierke https://www.blogger.com/profile/14678809883294746934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1147312878657678801.post-52518974182625054962010-08-09T22:12:38.726-04:002010-08-09T22:12:38.726-04:00Ditto. We are almost to 3 years... still happy. St...Ditto. We are almost to 3 years... still happy. Still in love... Still working on making ourselves better but loving it. We were told the same things, as if after so many years of marriage your life all of a sudden because a black hole and your life is over... Not the case for us yet... Wont be for you either.Dan and Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14307826739022018350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1147312878657678801.post-59372297235049459612010-08-09T09:22:44.205-04:002010-08-09T09:22:44.205-04:00Well said. Sometimes I hate when my coworkers tal...Well said. Sometimes I hate when my coworkers talk about their husbands. 90% of the time they are complaining. Like you said, it's awkward. And that line was the one thing I remember from that Ensign article. And how can marriage remain a sacred relationship if it is treated in that manner? I could also go on.<br />Congrats to you and Jericho!Christahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12292286363728591783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1147312878657678801.post-47303807819948165572010-08-06T23:55:56.422-04:002010-08-06T23:55:56.422-04:00I completely agree! I hated receiving comments to...I completely agree! I hated receiving comments to the effect of "you don't know what you're getting into" when I was engaged; of course I didn't know what I was getting into, how could I? But I knew I loved Christian, that marrying him was the right decision, and that if we worked really hard we could be happy together.<br /><br />I once had a friend say to me, "You know, my husband has never raised his voice to me. He doesn't ever get really angry with me." Instantly, my level of respect for her husband and their relationship grew. Not true for men whose wives I've heard say, "Oh yeah, I've trained him not to do that" like he's a dog.<br /><br />I always find it touching when I see older married couples holding hands or sitting with their arms around each other, and you can tell they're still completely in love with each other -- that's what I want to be like for the rest of our lives.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17502995957638811707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1147312878657678801.post-61237455430471167682010-08-06T21:26:31.211-04:002010-08-06T21:26:31.211-04:00Well said Kelley. Keep this attitude and your marr...Well said Kelley. Keep this attitude and your marriage will get better and better as the years go by. When women start saying negative things about their husbands ask them to tell you what they like about them.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702029497867763770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1147312878657678801.post-21317808315790574582010-08-06T20:55:07.039-04:002010-08-06T20:55:07.039-04:00I'm guessing (hoping) that you hear most of th...I'm guessing (hoping) that you hear most of this at work, and not from your friends. I don't hear much talk like this because I don't work and my good friends don't talk bad about their husbands, or anyone else for that matter...if they did, I'm sure they wouldn't be my good friends :). <br /><br />And just so you have something positive to refer to concerning people who are married: I love my husband(your brother) more now than I did 8 years ago when we were dating and 7 years ago when we got married. We have grown SO much closer and we look out for and take care of one another. He's my best friend.<br /><br />I'm glad you and Jericho have a great marriage, too.Elisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16169046988621394543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1147312878657678801.post-27304360379472078262010-08-06T13:40:01.520-04:002010-08-06T13:40:01.520-04:00I have nothing to add.....just impressed and total...I have nothing to add.....just impressed and totally agree. And FYI - I'm at 6 years and am still as infutuation as I was at 1 month....tough times and all:)Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10884457300012366507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1147312878657678801.post-14718490301604506932010-08-06T12:58:14.670-04:002010-08-06T12:58:14.670-04:00A+ for this post. When I was transitioning between...A+ for this post. When I was transitioning between YW and Relief Society, I sat in a RS meeting with my mother one Sunday and was APPALLED! at the number of sister's making negative remarks about their spouse. :-(<br /><br />I got some advice from my sister Amber's husband one evening when I was filing a complaint about the BF...he said you should never talk about faults or fights you have with your significant other to everyone because then that's all they remember about the other person. WOW! Blew me away and yet it makes so much sense!<br /><br />I think our society has degraded marriage so much that it's no wonder everyone gets divorced! People don't WORK at being married, they don't compromise...they remain just as selfish as they were when they were single and they forget that marriage is all about give and take and forgiveness! I think if everyone would take the time to really WORK at being married, well hell we'd have a HUGE drop in the divorce rate!! (sorry, I'm not even married and I have a lot to say on this topic too!LOL)ReLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06408648962903216798noreply@blogger.com